All of us, one way or another, dream of finding a soul mate. However, indulging in romantic dreams, few of us reflect on the fact that even finding in this huge world precisely “our own” person, it will be necessary throughout life to make considerable efforts to ensure that the fire of love that appears at the very beginning of a relationship, not extinguished over time.
Unfortunately, most people do not fully realize that any relationship requires work on the part of both partners, and otherwise, even the most ardent feelings will cool off.
We present 10 laws that help to maintain truly close relationships throughout your life with your loved one.
10. The law of gift
The apostle Paul said that love does not seek its own. But indeed, the most characteristic manifestation of love affection is a man’s acute desire to do something good for his beloved, without requiring anything in return.
This distinguishes true love from passion or a primitive carnal attraction, which pursues only one goal - to get what you want.
Only by giving love to a loved one can you multiply it. This feeling resembles a boomerang - wherever you throw it, it will definitely come back.
One of the reasons that many people have been trying to find love for a very long time and fail all the time is because they are waiting to be loved.
True love does not set conditions, therefore the principle here: "you - to me, I - to you" does not work.
9. Law of Understanding
In a very famous Soviet film, one heroine says that happiness is when you are understood. It is hard to disagree.
When mutual understanding disappears between people in love, their relationship turns into ruins. Therefore, it is so important for partners to talk with each other and try to always understand their loved one, no matter how difficult it may be.
8. The law of love
Any living creature, regardless of gender and age, needs love. Love implies sincerity, tenderness, care, the need to give and bear responsibility.
If you think that love is limited only to “butterflies in the stomach” and romantic euphoria, then you are mistaken.
This feeling has many shades and manifestations, and falling in love is only one of the stages of love, it must fulfill the development of a stronger feeling and spiritual attachment, for which, in fact, people converge.
7. The law of cause and effect
What goes around comes around - old folk wisdom that will never lose its relevance, especially when it comes to personal relationships.
In this world, nothing happens by itself. Each event is preceded by some other event, therefore, when a discord occurs in your relationship, first of all, you need to carefully analyze the situation and identify your mistakes.
If you immediately blame your partner for everything, then such a position can lead you into a dead end, because if you admit that you made mistakes, then you still have a chance to fix everything, and if you take off all responsibility from the very beginning, then another Exit, apart from parting, will not remain.
6. The law of freedom
Love is a manifestation of free will. You cannot make love. Neither violence, nor threats, nor blackmail, nor manipulation will help you to keep this feeling or to engender it in someone.
Therefore, it is not necessary to come up with any artificial restrictions on freedom for the partner, hoping in this way to keep him.
Love and trust your loved one, because the more persistently you try to drive him into a "vise", the more zealously he will try to sneak out of them.
5. The law of touch
Touch is one of the main manifestations of love affection. Gentle and sincere embraces act firming on any relationship.
And do not say that you do not need these "calf tenderness." This is necessary for everyone, just many are embarrassed to admit it.
4. The law of similarity
All of us always let close precisely those people with whom something is related to us. If you do not understand what could connect you with your partner, then try to look into your soul more closely.
Think you deserve the best? Perhaps those people who really deserve the best already own this "best." Therefore, if you come across people who have not the best human qualities, then maybe you yourself are so?
3. The law of the power of words
You've probably heard that you can hit on a word. It is unlikely that anyone will deny this. But I must also say that in a word you can not only hit, but also kill ... kill relationships. Therefore, when talking with your loved one, make it your rule to "weigh" each word.
The insult inflicted on relatives, even if in a rush, is not forgotten for a very long time. One carelessly spoken word can drive a wedge into the strongest relationship. Therefore, remember that the word - not a sparrow, fly out - you will not catch.
2. The law of sincerity
It seems to many that if you fall in love with someone, then this is already enough for a life full of joy and happiness. However, in fact, love is a living, dynamic feeling, like a fire, which, if not supported, will go out very soon.
Sincere communication can be compared with dry firewood, with the help of which a fire can inflame to an unprecedented size.
Share your thoughts and feelings with your loved one. Speak frankly that you don’t like your relationship, so that you two will begin to solve the problem, and not pretend that it does not exist.
Let your partner know that you love and appreciate him. Remember, sincere praise is an integral part of a strong relationship, because inside each of us lives a vulnerable and moody child who needs approval.
1. The law of trust
Without trust, no relationship can exist. When a person loses confidence in his beloved, he becomes suspicious and anxious. He begins to break down over trifles, against this background household quarrels arise, alienation appears.
Remember, without trust you will never build a strong relationship. Therefore, learn to believe a loved one, and he will appreciate it.