Every parent wants his child to grow up as a worthy person, but not everyone succeeds. Moms and dads in the process of education face various problems.
They do not know how to solve them correctly, they let everything go by chance, or they complicate the situation even more. It is not surprising that relations between parents and the child deteriorate, tension is felt, they are moving away from each other.
If you think that you have a perfect child, and such problems will never affect your family, this article will not do you any good.
In fact, even the most calm and obedient child becomes a teenager, and this period, as a rule, does not pass without a trace for anyone. Nevertheless, it is better to prepare in order to know in the future what actions to take in a given situation. We present a rating of the most common problems of children's behavior and ways to solve them.
10. Rudeness
This can happen in every family. A child who yesterday obeyed orders obeyed the opinion of mom or dad, today is bold and rude. What do parents do? They shout at him, teach life, reproach with material wealth.
At this point, parents need to calm down and analyze their behavior. In most cases, it’s their own fault that the child behaves this way. They talk to him in elevated tones, indicate what and how to do. Some even use physical force.
Perhaps the child just wants to protect himself and copies the behavior of the parents. In any case, the relationship between them is broken. If this situation is familiar to you, do everything possible to improve relations with your son or daughter and do not repeat such mistakes again.
9. Disagreements and fights with peers
You already realized that everything comes from the family. The child looks at the parents and follows their example. If you have a conflict character, constantly quarrel with your husband / wife, allow yourself to raise your hand to your loved ones, the child will behave the same.
Unfortunately, in this situation, parents can no longer do anything. The only way to help the child is to talk and communicate with him. If he is the initiator of fights with peers, explain to him that you do not need to do this.
First of all, start with yourself, do not set a bad example. Be sure to teach your child to defend himself, he must be able to fend for himself.
8. Irresponsibility
Often parents do not accept help from young children. Mom thinks: “It’s better I wash the dishes myself, otherwise I will have to wash them, and also collect the fragments.” Dad behaves the same way.
The child gets used to the fact that he owes nothing to anyone. But when he grows up, he has responsibilities. But the desire to help has disappeared, but the sense of responsibility has not formed.
Encourage children to help around the house from an early age. You may have to redo everything, but the child will be happy that he has benefited the family. By the way, never tell your child that he has poorly washed the dishes or wiped the dust. With these words you will discourage him from all desire to do anything.
7. Lies
Often children lie to avoid punishment. This behavior is often found when a child wants to hurt parents, but these are more serious situations. If you find out that the child is deceiving you, talk heart to heart with him, ask him about the reasons for the deception. Maybe this problem is easy to solve.
Very often, parents themselves set a bad example. When an annoying neighbor arrives, the child is asked to say that the parents are not at home. Adults also love to brag about having outwitted the tax or the seller in the store. It is logical that the child will behave similarly, he will consider such behavior the norm.
6. Slowness
If a child is going to school for a long time or doing homework before midnight, then most likely he needs your help. You will help him once or twice, but this cannot go on forever. Teach him independence.
The problem of slowness is easy to solve if you explain to the child what will happen if he does not have time to do his own thing. Just tell him that he should be ready for breakfast. No sooner, he goes to school without breakfast.
As for homework, each child must do it on his own. Of course, if he has questions or doesn’t succeed, help. But if he is lazy and deliberately takes time, let him get a well-deserved deuce. Maybe next time he will be more responsible in his duties.
5. Reluctance to go to bed
Parents face this problem when the child is still very small. Around so many interesting things, what could be a dream? Again, the baby can be rocked, tell a fairy tale.
If the student does not want to sleep, then you will not do anything about it. Set the mode, at a certain time, the child must be in his room. It is clear that you cannot make him sleep, but if there is nothing to do in the room, he will have to go to bed. Therefore, make sure that the child does not turn on the computer or tablet.
4. Whining
Children very quickly realize that parents can be manipulated. The best method is nagging. In this case, only detachment will help.
Ignore the aching child. If possible, go to another room. Soon he will understand that this method does not work, and will not use it anymore.
It’s important not to overdo it. If the child really needs your help or support, do not push him away. If he asks for a new phone or game, do not pay attention.
3. Outbreaks of irritation
In most cases, children use this method when they cannot achieve something from their parents. Also, outbreaks of irritation often occur when a child cannot cope with his duties.
Thus, he hopes to attract the attention of parents. The problem is solved easily - it is worth depriving the "actor" of the audience how to calm down.
Nevertheless, offer your child your help. Help with advice, but do not perform duties for it. Let him know that in any situation, parents can be asked for help, but you need to hope first of all for yourself.
2. Refusal of food
Many children manipulate their parents with food. The child refuses to eat until mom and dad fulfill the request. Of course, many parents begin to persuade their beloved child to eat. They promise to do anything so that the child does not die of hunger.
This is the wrong tactic. The child refuses to eat, let him not eat. Nothing terrible will happen if he skips lunch or dinner. But next time he will think before setting conditions for his parents. Again, if the child decided to eat, do not make fun of him and remember the unpleasant situation.
1. Laziness
Not only children like to be lazy, adults also often put things off for later. If you do not want your child to grow up as a bummer, start raising him from a very young age. Build a sense of responsibility in him.
The child should know that he is obliged to do homework, clean up the room, and go for bread. If he begins to be lazy, a preventative conversation or a bitter experience will help.
You can not wash his favorite sweater, do not wash the dishes. Say you're lazy. He will be very surprised. Soon, the child will understand that each person has his own responsibilities that he must fulfill.