All parents want their children to be happy. Do not worry too much, no one is safe from mistakes.
Many parents do things that they later regret. So most fathers admit that they did not notice how their child grew up. All because they wanted to give him the best, had to work hard. Moms who are forced to spend time with the baby regret that they were too busy with household chores and paid little attention to the child. In our article, you will learn about the mistakes that parents whose children have already grown up regret. If your child is very young, this information will be very useful for you.
10. Avoid communication with the child
This seems to be impossible. How can you avoid talking with your child if you spend all your time with him? It turns out you can. Mom can look after the child, and at this time, go about her own business. She will do the cleaning, prepare dinner, wash, stroke, "sit" on the Internet, watch the series. All this time the child is left to his own devices. She does not play with him, does not talk, does not read books to him, she just looks after him. Not only does your child need to communicate with you, but you also need to communicate with him. Many parents realize this too late when the child is older. He himself does not want to spend time with his parents. Therefore, while he is small, enjoy every minute spent together.
Nothing terrible will happen if an adult does not have his children's photos. But still he will be very interested in what he looked like in childhood. The moments when the whole family is going to watch an old photo album are priceless. Memories, emotional conversations - this is very close. You yourself will often want to see how your child has changed, how he has grown up. Therefore, do not forget to take photos and record videos. Also take care of the safety of the footage. Do not be lazy to print photos, arrange photo albums. Remember that the technique is not eternal, if you store the photo on a computer or phone, you risk losing everything.
8. Did not play educational games
Recently, every mother considers it her duty to bring the child to the "developmental". If the child is already a year old, and he has never been in a development studio, this is a disaster. Yes, indeed, many parents regret that they did not play developmental games with the child, but what is happening now is a bust. Do not think that the studio will replace the child's communication with parents. While he is still very little, do it yourself. Draw, sculpt, read, sing, dance. All this will have a beneficial effect on the development of the child, and maybe you will understand why the child has a soul. Then you can develop his abilities. Joint activities will strengthen internal communication with the child. This is the best reason for homework.
7. Not allowed the child to make decisions on their own
Everyone is familiar with a situation where parents take on the solution of all problems. They earn money, raise a child, decide what he will eat for lunch and what toy to play. This is the wrong approach. In order for the child to grow up as a self-confident person, not afraid to make decisions and be responsible for his actions, let him do it now. If the child says that he wants to walk, do not include cartoons for him. If he does not like boiled eggs, there is no need to force him to eat them. Teach your child independence from childhood. When he grows up, it will be too late.
6. Attached too much importance to the advice of others
Each parent hears a lot of tips on raising children. Grandparents, sisters, brothers, relatives, friends and just acquaintances (and sometimes strangers) consider it their duty to tell young parents what they are doing wrong. You can listen to these tips, but you should not completely rely on other people's opinions. This is your child, and only you know what will be better for him. Never let strangers scold your child in a public place: in transport, in a store. Even if he behaves ugly, only you can tell him about it. The child will understand that you will always support him, will feel safe.
5. Were far in the most significant moments of their lives
Of course, adults always have a lot to do, and there is not always the opportunity to take time off from work. That's just a child can not explain it. If you do not come to his first matinee, he will be very upset. Do not ignore the child when he especially needs you. Morning performance, doctor's visit, first performance, if you are there, the child will feel confident. He will perform much better, he will not be afraid of an injection, he will be able to do everything. The presence of parents is very important for young children.
4. Did not please the child
Many parents are constantly busy, devote too little time to the child. Think about how much time you spend per week on the Internet? How much do you watch TV? So still you have free time. Devote it to the child. As often as possible, choose the whole family for a walk, go to the park, out of town, attend performances, play sports. If the weather is bad, you can also find many different activities at home. In the future, both you and your child will remember this time as the happiest in life.
3. Raised in severity
If you raise a child too strictly, do not expect anything good. Many parents believe that children brought up in severity grow up as worthy people, but everything happens exactly the opposite. Such children become non-initiative, cannot make decisions on their own. Very often they have problems with the psyche, they want to take revenge on their parents for a spoiled childhood, they become angry, aggressive. Parents will never be able to correct the situation. When the child grows up, he will become a stranger to him, he will no longer want to return to the house where he was constantly offended. Punish the child only for the cause, do not be too strict, then this will not affect your family.
2. Do not remember the first words of the child
Of course, these are just words, but this is important to you. You love your child, enjoy every achievement. When he grows up, you can tell him about the first step, about the first word. It’s better not to rely on your memory, in a few years you will forget everything. Get a notebook or buy an album. Make it out, write down all the achievements of the child. After many years, you will be able to remember everything to the smallest detail. This information will be interesting for your grandchildren, keep it.
1. Do not hug children
While the child is small, he wants to be with his mother all the time. But what does she hear? Endless tips: "Teach your hands, you will suffer all your life!". Parents listen to other people's recommendations and restrain their impulses. Hug your child, kiss, carry him in your arms. Do not be afraid, the child cannot be accustomed to hands. When he grows up a little, he will not allow you to wear it, hug it. He will say: “Mom, I am already big” and will run about his business. Everything has its time. While he enjoys sitting in your arms, hugs you, enjoy these moments.