Man has always depended on the opinions of others. If you are still in doubt, the following is a list of reasons to stop worrying about the opinions of others.
10. You will stop trying to prove something to someone
Many people do not what they themselves want, but what others expect of them. They are trying to live by accepted standards. First you need to get a decent education; then get a prestigious job, preferably in the office; buy an expensive car, let on credit; take a mortgage for 30 years. Man lives according to plan. Only he did not draw up a plan. Despite this, he is trying to prove to everyone that he is no worse than others that he will achieve unimaginable heights in his career and in material terms. It doesn’t matter that he dreamed of something completely different: living in a village, doing cattle breeding there, raising dogs or working as a seamstress. In society, this is considered prestigious. Do not waste time, live as you please. No need to break yourself and live the life that your relatives, friends or just acquaintances expect from you.
9. Nobody can ruin your mood
Just imagine, your mood depends only on you, nobody will be able to spoil it. A harsh phrase, an unpleasant comment about your appearance or your abilities can negatively affect your mood. It makes no difference to you that this person means nothing to you. His opinion should not bother you. But the mood is spoiled, you worry and can not calm down. You’re just used to worrying about what others think of you. Even a harmless comment on your photo on a social network will cause you negative emotions, spoil your mood for the whole day. Or maybe the person didn’t want to offend you at all. Take things simpler, unless your life changes because someone thinks badly of you. Why, then, should the mood change?
8. You will begin to attract the right people
If you start living by your own rules, not all acquaintances and friends will like it. Be sure that most of them will be eliminated. They will not want to talk to you anymore. In this case, you should not be upset. Reliable people, true friends will remain near you. They will not leave you, even if your opinion does not coincide. They will support you in any situation, from them you will never hear the phrase: "I said." Be prepared for the fact that people whom you considered the closest, can leave your circle of friends.
7. You will begin to change your life
You can easily change your life for the better. In most cases, people shift their responsibility to loved ones, they are afraid to leave the comfort zone. This makes it easier to justify in case of failure. If you rely only on yourself, and do not think about people's opinions, you will open yourself up for new achievements. Not obeying the generally accepted rules, you can easily realize your dream. Rules came up with people. What is good for you will not necessarily be the best for others. People are all different, their aspirations and goals in life are different. Fulfill your dream, not someone else's.
6. You will live by your own rules.
You will enjoy your life as you like. You will not try to please everyone and everyone. Someone argues that this is how egoists live, but this is a healthy feeling. You have only one life, why you should live it in the way that others imagine. Do you know that by their rules only successful people live? They do not pay attention to others, are not afraid to dream and do. That is why they are successful.
5. You will understand how other people can negatively affect you.
Perhaps you do not notice how badly the people around you affect your life. You listen to their arguments to such an extent that you take their desires for their own. An oblique look or an unpleasant phrase can spoil the mood. Due to an insignificant event, a person’s self-esteem drops, energy disappears, he does not want to do anything. You know that not all people wish you well. You can inspire any thoughts in a person. Therefore, if someone from your environment belittles your dignity, says that you will not achieve success in life, stop talking to him. And of course, forget these words and do not take them seriously.
4. You will become free
You simply cannot imagine what happiness it is to be free. You will be able to make decisions on your own, justifying the choice with your preferences. After all, most people consult on all important (and not so) issues with their loved ones. Their words are likely to affect your actions. Even if at first you thought differently, their arguments will convince you. But then you will regret that you made a decision not in your favor. Think with your own head, do not ask for advice, it will be much easier for you. You will not be tormented by thoughts about the correctness of the perfect act.
3. You will become bolder
Yes, at first it will be very difficult for you. You are used to relying on others. But gradually, step by step, you will become bolder. Everything is simple here. You will no longer look back at other people. Fear of error will recede into the background. Even if you do something wrong, you will only have to answer to yourself. You will understand how you want to live only when you are free from other people's influence. The reward for this will be courage. You will be freed from pressure from relatives and friends, will listen to your desires and feelings.
2. You will be more likely to succeed
If you do not listen to the opinions of others, you will have much more chances to succeed. You will do only what you want. You will have enthusiasm and desire to act. Many people are afraid to take risks, and their dreams remain dreams. This is because they are afraid of what others will think of them. Let them think of you as a stubborn person who does not respect the opinions of others. Is this really important to you? Is it so important that you are ready to forget about your success? Everyone has a different concept of success, do not forget about it. Someone means success of material wealth, someone realization in his personal life or career.
1. You will understand that others do not really care
At one point, you will realize that others do not care. They give you tips, but these tips are superficial. People are busy with their problems. They often say to show respect or not to seem indifferent. Even those who collect gossip about you also do not care about you. Today you are at the epicenter of events, so everyone is discussing you. And tomorrow something more significant will happen and they will forget about you. Each person has his own problems and concerns, they have no time to go into the details of your life.
Now you see that the opinions of others are not always of value. In most cases, on the contrary, it prevents you from making the right decision and living your life.